There is a common misconception that in long-term relationships sexual desire always goes down the hill. We have all been there or at least had some doubts that it will last, haven’t we? For many this intimate topic becomes a taboo because this desire is rooted in the sense of self-worth and confidence. And instead of reconnecting with our self-worth and cultivating a sense of Love from inside to express and share it freely with the significant other, many of us tend to distract ourselves, lose ourselves in everyday routines and eventually shut down as it creates a false sense of having control over our unfulfilled desires. Many of us remain stuck there because our conditioning has burdened our sexuality with all kinds of expectations and repressions. Look at intimacy beyond a sexual intercourse, and you will see that the underlying desire is actually “In-To-Me-See”. That brings us back to the importance of raising our consciousness ;) .
"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." - I hope we all agree with a famous quote by Albert Einstein.
Therefore let me try to apply the model of four level consciousness to our intimate relationships situation.
Life is happening To Me - victim mentality. When we choose to complain about the lack of intimacy or expect that someone does the “In-To-Me-See” for us - it is time to recognize that we are still at the lowest level of consciousness and it is time to wake up. We manipulate the situation.
Life is happening By Me - When we awaken into an outdated masculine model of sexuality that is focused on performance and appearance in bed. At this level we do all it takes to reach the finishing line as fast as we can. We control the situation, which means we are still needy.
Life is happening Through Me - When we awaken into the suppressed feminine energy, we explore and reconnect with our body and our senses. We are not afraid to light our shadows. - We radiate inner power coming from our heart’s deep intuition - we are Free!
Life is happening As Me - When we awaken into our Divine mystery of our nature. - We are whole and we feel our partner as part of us. This level of connection opens the doors to the Infinite Bliss of Oneness - We are One!
“Science cannot solve the ultimate mystery of nature because, in the last analysis, we ourselves are a part of the mystery that we are trying to solve.” – Max Planck, German theoretical physicist.
To awaken to the state AS ME, we must stop looking for excuses and solutions outside of ourselves or for science to discover the Love formula. It’s a subjective and an experiential journey.
Treat your intimate relationship like a flower bed which needs attention, care, admiration and love. I guarantee you will experience a mind-blowing ecstatic and ever blossoming connection that you never knew was possible! Treat each other as if any day is a Valentine's Day!
From my Blossoming Heart to Yours,