By nature, human beings are emotional creatures. We are motivated and activated by emotions. Emotions are the drivers of our behaviours as they automatically tell us what is important or unimportant. Our emotions shape our beliefs and therefore govern our lives.
The overflow of emotion that comes from emotional energy being stuck or suppressed in the body fuels most psychological problems like depression, phobias, chronic pain, anxiety, trauma, addictions, etc. Dealing with powerful emotions can be challenging, especially when we are going through chaotic, sad, or cruel experiences in our lives. Often, it can seem like we have only two options for dealing with our feelings so they don't become too overwhelming. We may let our feelings out in an immediate and visceral way, or we may bottle them up by suppressing our emotions inside our bodies
We tend to confuse thoughts about an emotion with the emotion itself. However, the energy of emotions is not in your mind, it’s in your body, and that’s where you need to focus your attention in order to relieve pain – in your body.
To engage gracefully with difficult emotions try not react but before responding take a few deep breaths into your belly and follow the next steps.
Avoid analysing or identifying an emotion. Don’t ask why you have it and don’t attach it to the story or experience that created it.
Understand that an emotion is an Energy in Motion. It is meant to flow, therefore it can and it will change.
For best result, close your eyes. Tap into the physical senses in your body. Identify where in your body and how an emotion makes you feel. Try to describe the shape, the colour and the intensity of the sensation.
To feel is to experience life. Have no judgment, don’t resist but instead try to welcome it fully. Unexpressed emotions create tension in the body. Closing down to any feelings makes you numb to all feelings. If you stuff your anger, you also block your ability to love. Surrender.
Breath in deeply into this area of your body, release when breath out. Breathing into feeling assists you in being more aware of your emotional state.
Express kindness, say “it’s ok to feel this way”, “it will pass”. Perhaps, try to gently touch and rub the area or hug yourself and give it a smile.
When your mind will begin wondering losing focus, perhaps you will notice a positive shift in the way you feel. Stay with this shift for a few more moments.
Think of one little thing (preferably new) you could do to make yourself feeling better (a cup of tea, a walk on a new route). Go ahead and do it!
Practice this technique to master your emotional flow. Let emotions flow like a river.
Most importantly whenever an emotion arises always look within. Even if you think someone else triggered you, you will discover the truth within.
Practices like meditation, yoga, chi gung, will strengthen your emotional resilience and inner wisdom. Sharing with someone you trust and journaling can also help to unwind.
If you find that facing your feelings head on is proving too difficult during times of emotional distress, you may want to explore alternative ways of expressing them or contact AUROOM LIFE for support.